Horse Dating Scene Blog

 Ok, great! You’ve found somebody who makes you laugh, or hates to laugh; is angered by liberal media or positive reinforcement; basically someone who you can enjoy more than just a sweaty time with. So how do you fan the flames of romance without blowing out the spark, or suffocating it with the cling-wrap of smothering behavior?

First of all, go your own way. This person may be an important part of your life, or one day could be, but like you they have more going on than tapping out the emotional lines of your new relationship. Give them space, and what’s more, give yourself space. The reason they like you in the first place is because you are you…not because you are throw your life and personality away for an emotional bed-warmer. They want to be in a relationship with you, not your security blanket.

That also applies to an old saying, “Men marry a woman believing she’ll never change; and a woman marries a man thinking she can change him.” DO NOT BECOME THIS CLICHE’! Ladies, why become involved with a man that will be the equivalent of a real-estate renovation product? Try to get it right the first time; if you can’t get that big…erm…pool you’ve been dreaming about, either keep shopping or remember that the fireplace is nice and cozy.

And fellas? Just because I said a lady shouldn’t try to change you, that doesn’t mean there isn’t room for compromise. Don’t try to make a woman the bigger man because you have to much pride to change. A relationship is like an oak tree seed, with both genders playing the parts of the soil and seed. The tree will change the soil, the rich earth supporting it even as it moves, allowing room for growth; compromising without changing. Don’t try to overwhelm her with your way, drop the “y” and the why….a relationship is our way.